“Long ago, Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and lived happily together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they arrived on Earth and were struck by amnesia: they forgot they came from different planets” (J. Gray)

 

This book talks about things that are well-known or at least, unconsciously known by everyone, but that we rarely manage to articulate in such an elementary and educational way.

That the vast majority of women hide a "nagging animus", for example, is well known.

But this is what men say and think.

If a woman has problems, she wants to TALK ABOUT them with someone and simply share them.

If a man has problems, he primarily wants to SOLVE THEM.

Possibly alone.

From this fundamental Great Difference, theories and postulates arise that make us truly doubt whether men and women live on two almost incommunicable different planets.

They want different things and interpret facts from different perspectives.

If there is a sunny day, the man thinks “what luck it's not raining”, while the woman thinks about the Harmony of the World and the beautiful things life gives us on such a day where light is synonymous with positivity and so on and blah blah blah.

If the woman has cold feet, she clings to the man for him to warm them.

If a woman says NO, it’s a maybe; if she says YES, it could be a NO. If she says MAYBE ...watch out!

If to her NO the man responds with “whatever”, the woman feels bad and gets emotional.

If to her NO the man says “what a shame”, the woman feels offended.

If to her NO the man despairs, the woman smiles with a smug and charitable grin.

If to her NO the man hangs himself, the woman says “what a spineless man”.

This book “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” by John Gray (A world bestseller published in Italy by Sonzogno editions) is overall quite easy and enjoyable, even if some passages are almost too amusing in their truthfulness.

The dynamics between Man and Woman recounted in the dozens of cases presented are emblematic and sometimes embarrassing.

I challenge anyone who has lived at least 5 years with a woman not to recognize themselves in certain “back and forth” described here. Sharp and “enlightening” dialogues in their infinite desolation, proving the fact that men and women indeed come from completely different, rather distant worlds.

Men like to feel expert, prepared, and appreciated, but often need a space of solitude, an “inner cave” from which to draw vital energy, and women interpret this as “closing off” or an attitude of indifference towards them.

Women, in contrast, want to feel loved, adore superlatives, “live” sensations, and want to share their feelings with others, focusing firstly on nuances and details, things that drive men crazy.

And it is terribly all true: men have their behavioral and linguistic code, completely incomprehensible to women. And vice versa. Certain words or idioms even assume completely opposite values, and it is on this insurmountable gap that 80% of misunderstandings between the sexes arise, a source of stress, quarrels, and, in the worst-case scenario, separations or divorces.

Highly recommended for couples in crisis, misogynistic men, and hard-core feminists but, in general, for those who want to understand what goes on in a woman's little head (or a man's, even if there's not much to mull over there anymore... Women have turned it all into mush! But this is what I say as a man... and not even an easy one to get along with, as you know).

Tracklist

01   Intro (02:40)

02   Preface (01:50)

03   Chapter 1 (14:11)

04   Chapter 2 (05:33)

05   Chapter 3 (14:47)

06   Chapter 4 (14:56)

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